> funnily enough, it was my lack of articulation that prevented me from
> saying that it was my lack of articulation. I have been thinking about mine
> and other's articulation and ability to explain something clearly and
> concisely for some time, but I'm not sure why I couldn't connect that with
> my involvement with the list.
I ran into a similar phenomenon recently myself. My SO and I were
unpacking a truckload of my stuff, and I started carting things up the
stairs as he brought them in the house. Next thing I knew, he was barking
irritably at me about wanting to get on the road and why wasn't I out
there helping get things out of the car? It startled me, since I hadn't
realized he was getting frustrated. We talked about it later, and he said
that a combination of factors contributed (including mud, the
unhelpfulness of my housemates, and being on a timetable he hadn't told me
about), but the clincher was that he didn't manage to communicate his
rising frustration to me, until it reached the threshold at which he
snapped at me. He said that when he starts to get into that grumpy,
frustrated state, he becomes less capable of communicating, including
becoming unable to articulate that he's frustrated, short of snapping. A
sort of Catch-22, in that communicating the frustration before it reaches
a peak is generally what one needs to do in order to do something about
relieving it.
Keep talking. It's easier to hear you then.
--Eva